A Solemn Farewell — First Amish girl’s funeral begins two-day process of burying five schoolhouse murder victims in same cemetery. Naomi Ebersol is recalled as a shy child who didn’t want to go to school that day.

I’m glad to see this story include this note at the end — “All of the children’s funerals are private and restricted from the public and press. This account was assembled from the writer’s earlier observations, with substantial aid from friends and neighbors of the Ebersols. ” I expect the local newspaper to have this kind of sensitivity to the privacy of the Amish, but sure wish the national media would show the same kind of consideration. It may be more work to do journalism in a respectful way, but it is the right thing to do and it is do-able. Hundreds line roads to pay respects — Funerals for slain Amish girls get under way. Processions pass gunman’s home.

What is staggering to me in this story is how badly the media is behaving in covering this story (the worst example was of a reporter who tried to sneak into a funeral by dressing Amish). Certainly the story needs to be told (and I think the way that Amish follow Jesus’ teachings of nonviolence and reconciliation need to be shared with the world), but the media can do so in a respectful and less intrusive way.

CNN: Slain Amish girls laid to rest

MSNBC: Funeral services begin for Amish girls — Families urge forgiveness of gunman who killed five children

. . . In just about any other community, a deadly school shooting would have brought demands from civic leaders for tighter gun laws and better security, and the victims’ loved ones would have lashed out at the gunman’s family or threatened to sue.

But that’s not the Amish way.

As they struggle with the slayings, the Amish in this Lancaster County village are turning the other cheek, urging forgiveness of the killer and quietly accepting what comes their way as God’s will.

“They know their children are going to heaven. They know their children are innocent … and they know that they will join them in death,” said Gertrude Huntington, a Michigan researcher and expert on children in Amish society.

“The hurt is very great,” Huntington said. “But they don’t balance the hurt with hate.”

. . . The Amish have also been reaching out to the family of the gunman, Charles Carl Roberts IV, 32, who committed suicide during the attack. Dwight Lefever, a Roberts family spokesman, said an Amish neighbor comforted the Roberts family hours after the shooting and extended forgiveness to them.

“I hope they stay around here and they’ll have a lot of friends and a lot of support,” Daniel Esh, a 57-year-old Amish artist and woodworker whose three grandnephews were inside the school during the attack, said of the Roberts’ wife and three children.

Huntington, the authority on the Amish, predicted they will be very supportive of the killer and his wife, “because judgment is in God’s hands: ‘Judge not, that ye be not judged.’”